Parental Favoritism: The Struggles of Firstborns in Some African Families and My Personal Experience

The issue of parental favoritism, especially in African societies, is a complex and sensitive topic. In some parts of Africa, particularly in traditional settings, the dynamics of family hierarchy and child selection can often manifest in ways that appear discriminatory. Specifically, parents may unconsciously or consciously treat their children differently based on birth order, gender, or even social status. The phenomenon i’m describing—where mothers, or parents in general, may favor younger children over the older ones, particularly if the older ones are struggling—can be rooted in various cultural, social, and psychological factors.

Understanding Favoritism in African Families

Traditionally, in many African cultures, the firstborn son or daughter often bears significant responsibility. The firstborn is generally expected to set an example for younger siblings, and they are usually given the privilege of inheritance or leadership in the family. However, in modern African families, the dynamics have evolved. These changes can sometimes lead to feelings of neglect, favoritism, or even resentment, especially when younger children seem to receive more attention, opportunities, or resources than their older siblings.