Make Excuses For Others
She always excuses her unpunctuality
Since your mind can hold only one thought at a time, the instant you start excusing the other person you withdraw the energy or fuel that the negatives emotions of anger and resentment require to get going and stay burning. You reassert your mental control. You keep yourself calm and positive. In a little while, the situation passes and you forget all about it. By substituting a positive thought for a negative emotion, whatever it is. If you have a major life problem, such as a divorce, a lost job, or a failed investment, the same rule holds true. Stop telling yourself ( and anyone who will listen) why you are entitled to be angry or unhappy. Instead, make excuses for the other person each time you think about the situation until the negativity dies away. When the fire of negative emotion goes out, you can then turn your attention to something positives. One of the most important rules for success and happiness is, “Don’t be upset or worry about something that you can’t do anything about.” Don’t criticize anyone for something that the person cannot change. A famous law says, “If there is no solution, there is no problem.”
Two Time Period
There are two time periods in life, the past and the future. The present is only a brief, flecting moment. You can choose to focus your attention on what has happened, which cannot be changed, or on the future, on what is possible, over which you have some control. Many people spend most of their emotional energies being upset and angry about events that occurred in the past. Unfortunately, this energy this energy is completely wasted. Nothing good can come of constantly complaining about the past. Even worse, the negative emotions kept alive by reliving past events rob you of the joy and excitement that you could experience by thinking about future possibilities.
Let It Go
A psychiatrist with more than 25 years, experience working with unhappy people wrote that the two most common words he heard in his practice were the words “if only.” It seemed that most unhappy people are hold back by some event that occurred in the past that they cannot let go of. They are still resentful, angry, or depressed over something that someone did or did not do or say. They are angry with one or both parents, a sibling, a previous relationship or marriage, a boss or business relationship, a failed investment or financial mistakes. The fact is that your life will be a continuous series of problems, difficulties, setback, and temporary failures. These unexpected and unwanted reversals and disappointments are a normal, natural, and unavoidable fact of growing up. To change Your thinking and change your life, you must make a decision to get over them and to get on with your life. no matter what happened. Until you do, you remain a slave to the past, which cannot be changed in any case. Make a decision today that, from now on, you are going to eliminate all the “ if only’s from your life.
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